You are married. This is the first step in what is sure to be an incredibly happy life together. Of course, it is going to be quite a challenge to make things ‘work’. You are going to get into arguments sometimes. There is no such thing as a marriage which is happy 100% of the time. However, we can assure you that you will be able to work your way through any problems that the two of you face. We want to share with you seven pieces of advice which, hopefully, should make your marriage a little bit easier.
Argue as much as you want
Seriously. We can’t stress this one another. Feel free to argue as much as you want. However, it is important that it is not just you v your partner. The two of you are going to need to work hard to solve the problem. It is two of you against the problem. Work together. You will have differences, but we are positive that you will be able to come to some sort of compromise.
Never stop the dates
It is important that you never stop dating the person that you are married to. Even when you have children (if you do not have them already), it is important that you set some time aside where the two of you can just be together and enjoy each other’s company. Never be afraid to be spontaneous. Be romantic.
Yep. When you are newly married, this is something which seems to go ‘out of the window’. Make sure that this does not happen to you. You should try and make time for sex. It is a bit of fun. You need to have some fun sometimes. Surprisingly, many of the major arguments in a marriage are related to a lack of sex.
Listen to your spouse
An argument occurs when one of you insists on being right and is not willing to listen to anything else that your spouse has to say. Do not ever get to this point. You may be right. Honestly, we do not care whether you are right or not. The important thing to note is that the person that you are arguing with also thinks that they are right. So, take a step back and listen to what they must say. It is for the wellbeing of your marriage.
Look for things to be thankful for in your partner
You love them. You love them a lot. There is a reason you got married. Even when the arguments are getting out of control, we are positive that you will always be able to find something in your partner that you can be genuinely thankful for. Make sure that you look for it.
You can go to be angry
It is a common misconception that you should never go to bed angry. We are going to shoot that down right now. There is absolutely no reason why you should not go to bed angry. Sometimes this is all that you need. You can go to bed, relax, and wake up in the morning with a clearer head. In many cases, you will find that this is all it really takes to put the argument to bed once and for all.
Never call your spouse names
This may not seem like a big thing, but it really is. It is important that you never hurl names at your spouse, even if you get immensely angry with them. There are some words that you can say which you will never be able to take back. It is important that you never put yourself in that position.