Alright, so the holiday season is upon you. This is your first holiday season as a married couple. Believe us, things are going to be much different this year. There will be arguments. There will be conflicts. There will be tons of people to visit. This year, it is going to be abysmal. No. We are not buttering anything up for you. At the end of the day, however, the two of you are going to be madly in love. You just need to get through the hard times. We promise you, from here on out, things are going to get a lot easier when the festive season rolls around. Let us give you a few tips so you will be able to survive the first year!
The first present that you get your partner as a married couple is going to be remembered for years and years to come. Make sure that you get them something special. We know that in the minds of many people out there, special means something which is expensive. That is not true. If you do not have the money, you do not have the money. Special means something that shows that you have thought about the other person. Get them something that you know that they are going to love and cherish. It comes from you. Why would they even care how much you have spent? The idea is for you to show them that you love them to the ‘moon and back’. A thoughtful present demonstrates this.
We suggest that you start looking for a present months in advance. If you do not, then the gift is going to seem rushed at the end of the day, which is not going to be great.
You may not be causing an argument if you get the wrong gift, but you are certainly setting yourself up for one.
Help around the house
The festive season is going to be hectic. You are throwing up decorations. If you are hosting people, then you may have some cooking which needs to be done! It is important that you know that this is going to cause a lot of stress for you. There is something about needing to host people for the first time as a married couple which causes this stress. You have probably been doing this countless times before, but now is your first opportunity to make an impression as a married couple. It is a big opportunity. We are positive that you are going to be able to make it work for you, however! We believe in you that much!
It is important that you help around your partner out. Do not leave them to do all the work. Plus, if the two of you are putting up decorations together, it seems almost romantic. Who cares if you are not a dab hand at cooking? Honestly, cooking any sort of festive food together is not going to be all that difficult. If you are really terrible and you burn food, then go out there and buy it. It is important that you work together. You are going to be creating memories here.
Know what you are doing
It is important that the two of you know what you are doing for the festive season. You need to know which members of your family, and maybe which friends, you are going to be visiting with them. If you can, try to make sure that both of your families get visited. It is a nice touch. Plus, you will be surprised at just how many arguments get started because people can’t find the time to visit their own family.
We recommend that as a newly wed couple, the two of you play host to both of your families at the same time. This will give them a chance to get acquainted with one another, if they are not already. It also means that you are going to be able to see both your families without putting the effort in, something which you may be a little bit too tired to do so around the holiday season!
Make time for one another
You are going to be rushing around like crazy during the festive season. It can be easy to miss talking to one another. It is important that you do not do that. As we have written elsewhere on this website, it is important that the two of you continue to ‘date’ one another when you are married, so you should ensure that you are not letting up on that during the holiday season! Schedule a time where the two of you can do something. You do not even have to go out. You can just cuddle in front of the TV, maybe watch a Christmas movie or two (or maybe three!). It is a fabulous experience. You are in Australia, so you are probably going to be skipping that roaring fireplace that is traditional in Christmas movies, unless there is a freak cold wave. But, at least the two of you can spend time together. This also allows you to unwind, something which you are very much going to want to do when you have been spending all of the time rushing around!
As this is your first Christmas together, if you can afford it, try to have some time off work around the time. You just need a couple of days together, making memories. That is all you want.
As you can see, there is a lot that needs to be done if you want to survive the festive season. However, the two of you are madly in love. We are absolutely positive that this is something that you are going to be able to accomplish with ease! Make traditions this holiday, and things will become a little bit easier for your next holiday. You probably are going to argue during the festive season, it is a period of high stress. Just make sure that you ‘talk it out’ and try to understand the point of view of the other person!