Making the decision to move in with your partner is one of the most thrilling decisions that you could possibly make. However, it is important that you do it ‘correctly’. It is going to make living together that much easier. It is likely that it will cut down on a substantial amount of arguments too.
Know how much each person is paying
This is important. It is vital that the both of you know just what you are paying for. In an ideal world, you will be splitting those bills down the middle. So, half of the rent or mortgage each, and half of the utilities each. You may want to mix this up a little bit, depending on your individual circumstances, but for the most part it should very much be an ‘even’ split between the two of you. It does not matter too much how you do it, just make sure that you have a ‘plan’ in place with regards to how much the two of you will need to spend each. If you do not have that plan, then you are probably going to run into issues.
If you do not have a shared bank account, and many couples do not so there is no need to fret if you don’t, then you may want to have a dedicated account where you put the money to pay bills each month. Set up a transfer from your accounts to the ‘bill’ account on a monthly basis.
Understand Your Responsibilities Around the Home
If one person is doing all the cooking or cleaning, then you may have an issue. The only time that this is really going to be acceptable is if one person is out of work at the moment and this is their contribution to the household. However, it is wise to give them a little bit of a break from time to time. For the most part, you are going to want to be sharing responsibilities around the home as much as you can. This is going to create a much happier environment.
Learn how to communicate
Life is not going to be fun living together if the two of you do not know how to communicate with each other. Yes, you are going to run into arguments. These arguments are not going to be avoidable. However, you can probably cut down on the amount of aggravation that the arguments cause. It is important that you know how to see the situation from the point of view of the other person. If you can’t do this, then you are not going to be able to live together. Whenever you get into an argument, then the two of you need to realize as soon as possible that the two of you need to sit down and talk it out.
If you are regularly arguing before you live together, then things are only going to get worse, so try to ‘nip it in the bud’ as soon as you possibly can.
Perhaps the worst thing you can do (well, not quite the worst, but it does come close), is allow just a single person to have a say in the décor of the place you are living. You are both living there. You are going to need to make your decisions together. The only exception to this rule is if one of you is an interior designer, but we are positive that this is not the case.
Sure, you may not like some of the design decisions that the other person is making, but let’s be honest, they probably do not like some of your design decisions either. If you want to live together properly, then both of you need to feel like it is your ‘home’. Plus, you never know, you may end up liking the place after a while. Design choices will grow on you.
You are going to be around each other 24/7 from here on out. That is going to be enough to drive just about anybody crazy. Therefore, it is important that you take breaks from one another. Do not forget to go out with your friends and the like. When you spend a lot of time together, then this is when the arguments start to brew up. Taking a nice break will stop this dead in its tracks, which is going to be awesome!
Yes. It is going to be difficult to move into together for the first time. Yes, there are going to be a lot of challenges along the way. However, we promise you, this is going to be one of the most enjoyable experiences of your life. It is important that you learn how to embrace it!